Sitting by the window at the second floor of our rented apartment, with my 1-year-old baby son on my arms, then I thought... I just can't stop thinking about the realities happenin' in life. I smiled on to my son, anton, seeing him growing fast and I said, “this is it son! The reality of everything that finally awakens me”.. I sighed along as raindrops fell downstairs. “Dad!” shouted my first born, TJ, with his beautiful mom climbing the stairs towards me smiling and as always, tender. My family is my life and everything..
I came to realize how sacred is the married life to both man and woman shares for the rest of their lives. It is an eternal toast of up’s and down’s, for richer and poorer, in sickness and in health..even for better or for worst. Yeah that’s true. We have to undergo all of that. It is said to be that no man can put it under. It is said to be an unbreakable vow. And it is unbreakable vow! When we took that "I do’s" that day- everything was done and we are responsible for the rest of it. With all the celebrations at the table – Mega celebration or not, everything was all sealed. Yes man! it is a choice we made and it is a one way road together, even if you try to break it and make detours, the journey’s destination is only one. And you know someone great is waiting at the end of the tunnel..to ask you how you did it.. You cannot change the vow you took. Marriage is no ordinary decision to make and not the reason of what you may think be the answer. As what I said it is a sacred vow and not to be taken lightly. It should be thoroughly thought and consider with a lot of factors before committing yourself . You know, to get into marriage one has to possess only one common factor. And that is to have one “True Love”. Love that would considers sacrifices unconditionally for both parties. But, love to some people nowadays seems to miss looked of what they think is love for them. I tell you if you missed that shot, you are not only contributing bitterness to the world but you’re molding a lot of worst situations that could harm society in the future as well. Why I am saying this? You see when you get married you are making also a core society in the world that is – building a family. The world is revolving to each of the family people make. Right from our very homes, we are molding a world. You see the whole picture now? I am telling you, if you do not possess the one true love to someone, then, a worst scenario could happen. And it affects us all. Marriage is not just a walk on the clouds. It is the beginning of what you want your world would be. When you get marriage everything would change. Your ways of life is to be changed as well to the one true love you share with. That is to balance your relationships in harmony. You see? “to balance”. Is it a ring a bell to read that phrase? In marriage we both make love and sacrifices. It is the oneness and understanding of one’s need to be shared. Consuming each other’s loves and again sacrifices each other. If we devotedly do this practice isn’t we are contributing later on to a new generation’s dream of peace. And a balance to society.
Yet, I would like to share a little advice to all singles out there. Marriage isn’t a joke. That’s right is not all about sex and sex. It is about responsibility and sharing true love. I want to appeal to all of you guys out there that make use of your early times. Study hard. Engage yourself to leadership seminars and motivational sessions. Correct your mind setting as early as possible as you read this now. Learn to save money and make money. Because as what I been telling you marriage is not all about bed of roses. It has responsibilities that would really test you and beat you down whoever you are. You see in marriage one of the most many main reasons of arguments is all about financial problems at home. Money is the root of evil maybe but that depends on the situation. In growing families’ money obligations is a necessity and can be very stressful. Your patience will really be tested. Piece of advice, if you get into marriage don’t start with debt. It will really pull you down on the later years. Especially, if don’t know how to learn the basic rule. That is- do not spend an expense beyond your basic income. Cause if do, you’ll be in trouble the later years. Why I am saying this. This affects your marriage life later on. Especially if both of you don’t know how to communicate and talk each other about the situations. It will drain you and you'll lose everything.
And learn to sacrifice your own wants and needs. In marriage life will not be all about you. It is not a selfish crap.. It is all about the others around you......
But in marriage is not all about making our financial obligations meet or getting richer. Marriage has deeper purpose than that. It is a continuing journey that both of you travel hand in hand. It is a relationship that works as one, a relationship that shares and decides as one.
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